I had lunch with a good friend of mine today. Although we both suck at staying in contact via the phone whenever I am in town we make time for lunch or dinner or just to talk. Sometimes we talk about light things: boys (me), husband (her), clothes, music, or other fluffy topics. But more often than not we go immediately into some pretty serious discussions. I don’t know if that we both recognize that our time is short or that we have been saving up months of conversation but today was no exception to the rule.
Here are the things I found most valuable from her today:
- if you are unhappy, change something. She and I are on the same page on this one and we were both struggling watching other people not do it. (I always want everyone to be as happy as me.)
- find what you love to do and do it. I left feeling reaffirmed in my love of teaching. I love it. I even love the tough days and part of that is that I chose to do this. I chose the tough days.
- there is nothing wrong with therapy. This one was not really about either one of us right now but we both agreed that someone being paid to listen to you is excellent maybe even better than a friend in a lot of ways.
I am lucky in life to have friends like this one. I am feeling very lucky right now.
(On a side note: the false sense of a lack of responsibility that happens on my parent’s couch has sunk in and it’s excellent.)